Category: Dating

July 31, 2009

Passion 4 Christ Movement

Passion for Christ Movement – P4CM.com


P4CM Presents their official college ministry: “THE UPRISING”

Ex-fornicator, ex-lesbian, ex-racist, ex-homosexual, ex-hypocrite and many more of these t-shirts were floating around on a group of young people after the Lecrae/Reach Records tour concert a couple of weekends ago.   I hadn’t seen anything like that in person before and asked the group if they were local.  They explained to me who they were and that they’re from Los Angeles.  The group responsible for the t-shirts I was told are called P4CM.

After I went home that night, I immediately went to their website and found they were a group of young Christians called the Passion for Christ Movement, P4CM for short.  I was impressed with their boldness and their evangelism that is evident by looking and listening to the videos on their website and reading their articles that they also have on line.

This group covers almost any topic pertaining to life that you can come across such as:

  • Dating
  • Sex
  • Marriage
  • Atheism
  • Homosexuality

They cover so much more and one can easily take a peek at their list of videos here:  http://www.p4cm.com/p4cm/video

I won’t write any more about them but just let their videos do the ‘speaking’ for me!  Also, a few of their videos were added to my video list in the right column of this blog.  Be sure to take a moment and check those out as well!

I don’t know about you all, but it DOES take a bit of boldness to wear those shirts.  Which one(s) would you wear? Me? It could be almost any of them!


‘Ex-fornicator’ interviewing an ‘ex-abortionist’
The ‘Ex’ T-shirt movement!
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More “Ex” t-shirts (the concert advertised is already past)
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Homosexual Questions Uncovered (trailer)
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‘Ex-Diva’ giving the spoken word (Part 1)

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See others who have written on P4CM:

Real Christianity – Homosexual Questions Uncovered

GCM Watch – P4CM ex-homosexual ministry making strides

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April 19, 2009

Steve Harvey’s New Book: Act Like a Lady and Think Like a – Heathen?

Comedian Steve Harvey wrote a serious book on relationships titled: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. This book has taken this country by a storm and been lauded by Oprah, Ellen Degeneres, Good Morning America, on the New York Times Bestsellers list and on and on the accolades go.

But for Christians, this book is a major problem.  It’s full of advice being given by a man claiming to be a Christian. Advice that if Christian women (and men) follow, will find themselves compromising biblical principles.

I wasn’t too interested in this book until I started hearing Steve Harvey on some of the talk shows encouraging women to follow the 90 day rule. His rule is for women to not give up the *cookie* for 90 days but have the man wait until he is proven “worthy” of her feminine benefits.  I’ll explain this in more detail below.

Steve Harvey made statements throughout his book that left me wondering whether this man should be about the business of relationship counseling.  There’s nothing wrong with giving advice, but if you are going to wear the title “Christian,” then the advice needs to match what you claim to believe in.

The following statements were most problematic and what I found to be quite contrary to biblical standards.

  1. “Make him qualify for the benefits, and I guarantee you’ll have a better man on your hands – and in your bed.” Encouraging women to have the men wait at least 90 days before having sex with them.  The Ninety-day rule. (Chapter 11)
  2. “Hell is no longer an option for me. I’m doing what I can to get to the Gate.” pg 45
  3. “I’m not saying that you shouldn’t date a man who doesn’t go to church, or who has a different belief system than you.” pg 140
  4. “…when it comes to having sex with a woman, we men don’t decide a thing. We don’t determine when we’re going to sleep with you – that decision is yours.” pg 153
  5. In his chapter on “Why Men Cheat,” Steve Harvey says to women that “the way to get out of that cheater’s circle is to … figure out your standards and requirements, explain them, and stick to them…” pg 106

#1 – The 90-day rule. The *cookie.* That’s Steve Harvey’s nice way of saying “a woman’s sex.” The benefits. That’s what the man gets once his ninety days are up.

Most Christians can see right off the bat what’s wrong with this picture. Sex in 90 days means sex before marriage.  Steve doesn’t encourage anyone to wait until marriage.  That’s a major problem for the professing Christian.

Sex outside of marriage is completely forbidden in the bible.  In fact, the warnings are so dire in the New Testament about the practice of illicit sex, that we are commanded not to have anything to do with Christians who practice it!  1 Corinthians 5 shows this clearly:

“It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you …And you are proud! Shouldn’t you rather have been filled with grief and have put out of your fellowship the man who did this?” (verses 1-2)

These Corinthian Christians sound a little like Steve Harvey and most American Christians today: proud, and not ashamed of their actions.  How many of our churches have pews filled with Christians who go home and “shack-up” or have sex with endless partners without one bit of shame and proud for doing so?

“I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people- not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat.” (vs 9-11)

Paul isn’t talking about the unsaved here, but the saved! And how many churches are Christians practicing this discipline – the removal of those who practice immorality and all other kinds of sin?

“What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside. “Expel the wicked man from among you.” (vs. 12 and 13)

One of the most misunderstood acts in the bible is the act of judging.  In Matthews 7:1-5 we are told not to judge hypocritically, but Paul makes it plain here that we are to JUDGE each other! Christians are to judge one another and not the unsaved.  Our job with the unsaved is to share the gospel so that they may become saved. (more…)

February 23, 2009

Abstinence IS realistic! – Updated 2-1-10

by Carlotta Morrow — Categories: Dating, Family, Sex Education, Sexuality — Tags: , , , 8 Comments

Hopefully, teenage girls weren’t listening to Fox News last week when Sarah Palin’s daughter, Bristol Palin told Greta Van Susteren that abstinence isn’t realistic.  (see video below) Not exactly the role model we want our daughters to pattern themselves after.

“I think abstinence is, I don’t know how to put it — like, the main — everyone should be abstinent or whatever, but it’s not realistic at all…” – new mom Bristol Palin.

How can parents raise their children to abstain from sex when they are getting so many messages not to do so? Some of their schools provide free condoms and birth control, kids are having sex on tv and in the movies, and many parents have also bought the lie that abstinence isn’t realistic so why teach it?

I’m a strong believer that it IS possible to raise children to abstain from sex.  I’ve seen the results in my own family.  It takes a combination of rules, a reason for the rules, interactive parental guidance and plenty of prayer!

The goal is not to make it easy for our children to fall into temptation and succumb to their natural desires.  These days with parents working out of the home, there is no one left to supervise the children when they get out of school.   In California alone in 2006 statistics there were over a million teens left unsupervised between the hours of 2-6pm, usually during the time between school getting out and parents arriving home from work.

So even in homes where there are set rules, who’s around to enforce them? What kind of rules should be set?  Rules for the Christian family must always start with the bible.  If children can learn to love God by obeying Him, then they must know what God teaches about sex outside of marriage.

(I’ve dedicated an entire post to teaching children to abstain from sex in an article I wrote last year titled: No Condoms, No Pills! Part 2)

Rules for kids but what about us older singles? How do we abstain and is it even realistic for us to do so?  Yes it is.  If we believe what the bible teaches about sexual immorality, then we can choose to do what is right by making a commitment to not engage in sexual immorality and then avoiding at all costs tempting situations!

Abstinence.  Something that our nation avoids as a worthwhile pursuit.  Something that many parents have given up teaching their children about.  Something that Planned Parenthood thinks is the most ridiculous subject on earth.  And something that God would smile at us if we believe it can be done!

UPDATE 2/1/10: - Bristol Palin takes vow of celibacy

February 13, 2009

Dating: Are you a Christian or a Heathen?

With Valentine’s day being celebrated around the world on February 14, what better topic to blog about then “dating.” Do people still do that? With quick sex in the mix many people are just skipping dating altogether! There’s a million different ways that folks say “going out” but for simplicity, I’ll just stick to what we are all familiar with – “date!”

What is becoming disturbing in our day and times is the inability to tell the difference between Christians who date and non-Christians. Like how many Christians actually are waiting until marriage before having sex? How many young men and women are saving themselves for their future husbands or wives?

As a parent who teaches her children about dating and sex, I’m horrified to find out how many Christian parents have actually given up the thought of teaching their children to wait before marriage. “Well, they’re going to have sex anyways, you might as well give them their condoms and birth-control now!” If we believe in a possibility of our children engaging in sex, should we be leading them to the fire?

What should single people be holding on to as true followers of Christ before they begin to date? I’ve thought of a few things that as a single woman myself now (divorcee) and here are a few guidelines I follow and teach my children to do as well:

“Do Not be unequally yoked.”

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” – 2 Corinthians 6:1

Rule number one is a must: do not spend anytime with anyone who isn’t a Christian! If there is an attraction and a desire to get to know this person in a more intimate way, you must FIRST make sure you both are on the same page! Teens, if you’re dating someone because he/she is “cute” – same thing! Make sure the “hot mama or papa” loves Jesus! What does being on the same page mean? What does loving Jesus mean? Many call themselves Christians so you still have to be on guard. What do you look for in another Christian? A few things the person must profess:

  • Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior
  • The bible as God’s error-free word to mankind
  • The solid belief that sex is for marriage only.

A quick test for me was to ask a man what he thought about sex outside of marriage and that would tell me immediately where this “Christian” would be spiritually. There would be no dating until I’m able to ask “the question!”

Is the “fruit of the Spirit” evident in this person?

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” -Galatians 5:22-23

There could be a few things to let you know right away that this person is indeed not following after Christ. A persistent foul mouth, disrespectful actions towards people, drug or alcohol abuser. Just a few of what can be obvious tell-tale signs that you need to run from that person as fast as you can!

The book of Galatians gives a good listing of what “heathen” traits are like that you want to avoid in a person of interest:

“The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” – Galatians 5:19-21

A willingness to obey the word of God.

“If you love me, you will obey what I command.” – John 14:15.

You don’t have to be seeking Mr. or Miss perfect, but a good sign that someone is on the right track is having a heart to please our Lord. Someone who is willing to confess their wrong doings and then turn to doing what’s right. That’s godly character and a person after God’s own heart!

Most people would like to have a good Christian man or woman in their lives, but the question is also how many of us are good men and women ourselves? The same traits we look to find in others should be most importantly characteristic of our own lives!

There’s much much more to dating and sex and etc., but I thought I’d throw out a few things just to have folks thinking. As Christians we must be different than the world and that includes our “dating” or “courtship” activities as well!

So, heathen or Christian? Which are you?
And oh yes, do have a happy Valentine’s day! :)

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Recommended Reading:

Here are a few books I’d like to share that I have read on dating from a Christian perspective and they are quite good!

For the girls:
What to do until Love Finds You – Michelle McKinney Hammond
(all of her books on singleness are great!)

For both:
Boy meets Girl – say hello to courtship
– Joshua Harris
I Kissed Dating Goodbye - Joshua Harris
Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World – Joshua Harris
I Don’t Want Your Sex for Now – Miles McPherson

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