A blogger/writer, John Shore, urged his readers to forward his latest blog post titled: “Why should any of us choose to be a part of a group that condemns us.” I knew him from many of his postings on the Huffington Post as being a professing Christian who rebukes other Christians for daring to say that homosexuality is a sin. His blog article begins with informing his readers that he’s heard from A’isha, a friend of his who is a lesbian and a professing Christian. She lost her beloved girlfriend recently and was finding a way of dealing with the grief through writing. A’isha had written a piece she wanted John to post in which he did.
But he urged A’isha’s piece to be forwarded with a stern warning to:
“anyone who continues to cling to the ignorant, toxic belief that being gay is a choice for which God condemns people. (And to the people who in God’s name are STILL condemning A’isha? Save your souls: stop using Jesus to justify your own fear and hatred).”
John’s ignoring of the biblical commandments regarding sexual immorality that include homosexuality and his support of it recalled the following scriptures to my mind in Romans 1:28-32 where not only did those who practice in sin deserve death but also those who APPROVE of those who do the sinful practices. John is just as guilty as those who practice the actual sins because of his adamant approval of the gay lifestyle. Although we deserve death for these practices, God in His grace has spared many of us from instant death sentences.
A’isha’s piece is heartfelt and she obviously is still grieving the death of her loved one. I prayed before writing my response because condemnation was the last thing she needed right now, but I also felt that too many people were shielding her from the truth and as painful as truth may be, it had to be shared. So I wrote a comment which unfortunately didn’t appear on John’s blog. I found him on facebook and wanted to know if he was going to post it and he let me know he wouldn’t and his reason for rejecting it: “Because A’isha is my friend.”
So with that I decided to post my response to A’isha on my own blog here and hopefully not only will A’isha seek Christ for the changes needed in her life but others who are also going through what she’s going through. Hopefully she will discover who her TRUE friends are and run as fast as she can from her “deceitful enemies!”
A’isha, my condolences to you for your loss and I do respect your strength in your time of grief as well. Your story was very touching and because I’m not a lesbian but a heterosexual female, I can’t begin to relate with your struggles and where you are now.
I guess with all of that said, I guess I’m one of those who John refers to as holding on to the “ignorant and toxic belief that being gay is a choice that God condemns people” for. Well sort of. I believe that homosexuality is a choice or a lifestyle that can be changed, but I where I slightly differ is the condemnation part. Christ didn’t come to condemn anyone so neither should the rest of us. Until we become saved in Christ, we are all already in a state of condemnation and should be quite patient with one another through all of our struggles. (John 3:17-18).
There is a Proverb that comes to mind when I read this blog and it is this one: “Proverbs 27:6 – Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” People appear to be afraid to speak the truth here for fear of being labeled someone who judges or condemns. But the truth of the matter is that if we truly care about people then we will share the truth with them no matter how painful it could be.
A’isha, the truth sometimes hurts but if the truth is accepted, the fruit it bears will be quite worth the pain. The truth I’m speaking here is how clear the bible is on homosexuality and any sexual immorality outside of what God has approved – sex between a married man and a woman.
I know you know the scriptures so I won’t rehash them here unless asked to but I do want to share the story of a woman who struggled like you and she succeeded in getting out of the lesbian lifestyle. I hope you read this because only she can relate to what you had gone through.
Her name is Charlene Cothran, a lady I’ve never met but is featured on my blog. She doesn’t push anyone who doesn’t want to leave the gay lifestyle. If you believe that you are gay and it’s not a choice and not changeable, then don’t bother reading. This is for anyone who believes that with Christ all things are possible and that changing from gay to straight isn’t excluded among these possibilities.
If you are struggling and do desire to change, then read on! http://www.venusmagazine.org/cover_story.html
See also the videos on this blog where Charlene is being interviewed. Her testimony is in detail on Youtube as well!