The title may offend some of you while others may think this will be all about negativity towards single parents. But no, the reason I’m writing this post is to share the pros and cons of raising children alone and to encourage single parents everywhere not to give up and for others to always seek what’s best for children – a mother AND father in HEALTHY marriages!
My Story: Marriage – Divorce – Single-parent
I did the “right” thing by getting married first and what followed during the next 11 years was the birth of five children, three boys and two girls. My husband at the time was a proud papa – being present at every birth – well, except the first one when the baby was born 20 minutes after our arrival and papa was still putting on his scrub gown when the announcement was made to him, “congratulations! You have a bouncing baby boy!”
I loved being a new mother and nurturing those cute little babies. They were as the bible says about children – “gifts from God!”(Psalm 127:3) I was so thankful especially knowing that I had the possibility of not having them after being diagnosed with endometriosis and my husband being told he had low sperm count. So much for medical diagnoses!
But by the time the youngest was two years old, the marriage was over and I took shelter with my parents who welcomed me and all five children into their four bedroom home. At least I had the help of grandma and grandpa who help provide food, shelter, babysitting while I attended school and offered me much moral support! But something was still missing, and the children reminded me of it day and night.
“Where’s Daddy? When is he coming to visit us? Why doesn’t he come to my school?” It was heart-breaking with the children missing their father immensely while I was missing being married. The kids not knowing that I had missed their father way before the marriage ended with his many nights he spent away from home (not on business trips). (more…)