Almost a year since my first post on Tonex, aka Anthony Williams, and it is still one of the most popular articles on my blog: Tonéx has 4Gotten God. People are constantly searching the Internet for this popular and controversial singer/pastor and my blog is just one of several that have been critical of his questionable lifestyle. That still hasn’t changed.
Being a San Diegan (he’s also from San Diego) and a past HUGE fan of Tonex’s, I took a particular interest in knowing more about him. Why? Because I absolutely loved his music (was my favorite) and was just waiting for him to turn the corner and truly start representing Christ the way he should be (especially since he is a pastor of a church)!
I am so saddened to report that Tonex has not improved, but has become reprobate in his thinking and his living. This was witnessed by watching videos of “The Lexi Show” broadcasted on The Word Network. A show where Tonex opens up about past molestations when he was a child. I did think he showed great maturity by admitting that he doesn’t blame his current sexuality upon his past. He says he accepts full responsibility for what he’s encountered in life since his molestation.
Listening to the whole interview I couldn’t help but shake my head at Tonex’s constant misinterpretation of scripture. For example his understanding of the saying, “the truth shall set you free” he understood it to be “honest” with onesself and then you’ll be free – a deadly belief that honesty is all that God requires of us. Also his belief that he’s free from responsibility of NOT practicing homosexuality until God draws him out of it. He reasons since God hasn’t taken the desire from him yet, then it must be ok.
At least he’s brutally honest right now. Honesty that most can appreciate but is honesty what God desires from us? Yes, and no. Yes, he wants us to be honest enough about our sin that we’ll admit it – then forsake it! So it’s not enough just to be honest. To be honest and then do nothing about breaking God’s laws is just a complete waste and spiritually dangerous to one’s soul (as in never being born-again to begin with)!
Well, I’ll highlight a few of the headshaking comments pulled from that talk show that I felt was done very very well by Lexi. I commend her for being brave enough to ask the questions that everyone wants to know about Tonex, things that’s he’s been very vague about in the past, that he’s finally opening up about now. Lexi played the journalist’s part very well. I just hope that after the camera’s stop rolling, she played the part of the praying and concerned sister in Christ!
*UPDATE 9/2/11: See also post “Beyonce, B Slade, Chaz Bono, SB48 and more hot topics!”
*UPDATE 11/15/09: See my follow up post on this topic at: Can you be a Christian AND a homosexual?
Other blogs of interest:
DASOUTH.COM – B-Slade (Tonex) and Dejuaii Pace: Homosexuality in Gospel and in the Church (added 11/6/11)
GCMWATCH – Sad Day for Tonex and Tonex interview fallout: is this “hate”?
Gospelpundit.com - On TV: The Lexi Show Premieres With Tonex
TheblogofStuartMcDonald.com - Thoughts on Tonex
Real Christianity – Tonex-The Lexi Interview
Chester Street – There is a way that seemeth right to a man…
Anthony Estes Musings – A Case for a Christian Homosexual?
(This list updated as notable blogs come through.)
Below are written excerpts from Lexi’s interview with Tonex. The conversation of homosexuality began with Tonex’s discussion of his molestation when he was a very young boy:
Lexi: “Have you struggled with homosexuality?”
Tonex: “Not struggled. There was no struggle. People like to blame the struggle on the molestation. No just say you were attracted to men. Be honest and quit blaming it on that experience.”
Lexi: “Is your being attracted to men under control?”
Tonex: Under control... (repeating Lexi’s question but he doesn’t give an answer).
Lexi: “Do you sleep with men?”
Tonex: “I don’t sleep with MEN.”
Lexi: “Is homosexuality a thing of the past for you?”
Tonex: repeats Lexi’s question: “Is homosexuality a thing of the past.” (pondering the question). “I think that when someone understands who they are sexually and they know that they are a free spirit and they understand who they are as a person, it’s really difficult to label that…
“There’s still times where I’m like, ‘hmmm… I do want kids and I very much love women.’ But at the same time, I think we have to be honest with ourselves as to what it is that we have affinity for at the time. And I think, because of the situation that I experienced with the first marriage, that I would have to say that I lean more toward the same sex.
Not so much that I feel that women are not created for men, or that man is not created for woman, I feel that it’s a matter of energy and people’s honesty and a matter of love and I believe that God doesn’t honor promiscuity in either hetero or homosexual lifestyles – same gender loving.
I think it’s important for people to not be so caught with who I’d like to be sleeping with as much as I’m practicing safe sex or I’m in a monogamous relationship no matter what that would be now. Now when you have those who would say well that should be under the guise of marriage. Well I believe covenant period is marriage. I don’t think that same-sex marriage – I never really could wrap my mind around same-sex MARRIAGE? But same-sex covenants I can definitely wrap my mind around.”
Lexi: “Can you help the way that you feel?”
Tonex: “I tried.”
Lexi: “So what’s your conclusion?”
Tonex: “My conclusion is – I’m waiting to see what God wants to do. Because I don’t know who he’s allowing me to experience this walk of life to minister to later on.
Lexi: “So are you waiting for deliverance from being attracted to men?”
Tonex: “I’m not sure that’s something I have to be delivered from.”
Lexi: “You’re not sure?”
Lexi: “But you’re pastoring!”So shouldn’t you be sure of (undecipherable)
Tonex: “Pastoring is me being the undershepherd pointing them to the cross – not to Tonex. It’s me preaching the unadulterated word of God towards repentance and the cross. I don’t get into people’s bedrooms; I don’t get in people’s clothes closets … God’s not looking at that. Their posture and their heart is the most important thing and for me to point them to the cross is the most important thing.
Lexi: “If you die right now would you go to heaven?”
Tonex: “Yes, because I told the truth. A liar should not tarry in His sight.” (Not sure of the last phrase).
One of the last statements Tonex made before this was over is the following:
“before I say ‘this is what I am, this is the only thing I’ll be,’ I’ll say AT THIS STAGE, this is what it is. So everyone can just breathe and relax on your show and say, Tonex said, ‘yes, he’s attracted to men. Yes, he has experienced gay sex before. But that’s the least of who this man of God is.”
Lexi appeared on camera following the interview with her own closing statement:
“I would like to take this time to thank my friend and brother Tonex for a very open and honest and candid interview. It is my belief that a man is made for a woman and a woman made for a man. I believe that the bible speaks very clearly about this.
However, as a journalist it is my job to tell the story. And as a Christian, it is my job to love absolutely everybody and I do that unequivocally and unapologetically.
So until next time, watch and pray!
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