At least that’s what the world wants you to think about condoms. I’m always amazed to hear or read discussions about STDs and unwanted pregnancies and the cure all is always “education about condoms” or “just make sure you’re protected” or oodles of money sent to public schools and organizations for access for kids to get condoms. I’ve been bouncing around different blogs reading discussions about relationships, disease, and the word “condom” eventually pops up. In our modern age of STD statistics climbing, you’d think that most people would get it by now – CONDOMS AREN’T SAVING US!
Aren’t people aware of the fact that condoms are NOT perfect? With the high incidence of AIDS why play with their lives and have dangerous sex with someone they may or may not marry? Why not wait until marriage because more than likely they won’t use a condom unless to prevent pregnancy and even THEN the condom may not work! (I’m a witness to that as I have one child while a condom was in use with me and hubby (ex).)
What the Doctors and Scientists say about sex and condoms
The truth is that no matter the failure rate of condoms whether .00456% or 99%, who can afford to gamble with their lives? Interestingly, even the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention say to ABSTAIN from sex is the BEST way to avoid STDs.
The surest way to avoid transmission of sexually transmitted diseases is to abstain from sexual intercourse, or to be in a long-term mutually monogamous relationship with a partner who has been tested and you know is uninfected. CDC Dept. of Health and Human Services on Male Latex Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases
CDC goes on to say,
For persons whose sexual behaviors place them at risk for STDs, correct and consistent use of the male latex condom can reduce the risk of STD transmission. However, no protective method is 100 percent effective, and condom use cannot guarantee absolute protection against any STD.
NO GUARANTEES! And why are we taking that chance? I really want to know!
Now I found a sheet that has been floating around the Net for sometime now and I haven’t been able to confirm its truthfulness or not. But what’s noteworthy about this are the opinions of doctors knowledgable in the business of sexually transmitted diseases:
Condom Warnings — Beware!!!
Doctors speak out about condom failures!
Many leading health experts have warned against depending on condoms for protection against AIDS and other STDs. Here’s a sampling of their comments:
- “You just can’t tell people it’s all right to do whatever you want as long as you wear a condom. It (AIDS) is just too dangerous a disease to say that.” – Quote from Dr. Harold Jaffee, chief of epidemiology, National Centers for Disease Control
- “Simply put, condoms fail. And condoms fail at a rate unacceptable for me as a physician to endorse them as a strategy to be promoted as meaningful AIDS protection.” – Quote from Dr. Robert Renfield, chief of retro-viral research, Walter Reed Army Institute
- “Relying on condoms for ‘protection’ can mean lifelong disease, suffering, and even death for you or for someone you love.” – Quote from Dr. Andre Lafrance, Canadian physician and researcher
- “Saying that the use of condoms is ‘safe sex’ is in fact playing Russian roulette. A lot of people will die in this dangerous game.” – Quote from Dr. Teresa Crenshaw, member of the U.S. Presidential AIDS Commission and past president of the American Association of Sex Educators
Adapted from: Lickona, T. and J. Sex, Love, and You. Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 1994.
Another website shares some of the same information: Are Condoms Foolproof or for Fools?
The CDC says, it doctors say it, so why can’t we face the truth and admit that safe sex is NO sex at all! Now let’s take a look at what God says about sex!
What God says about having sex
For the Christian, there should be NO excuse to us practicing sex outside of marriage. Most people in America today you will find call themselves “Christian.” That’s regardless it they are living with someone they aren’t married to and having sex, or whether they are homosexual and even many marrieds who are sleeping around with someone that’s not their spouse, pedophiles, polygamists, bigamists, many, many people who just want to be “in with Jesus!”
But they’re not. The scriptures clearly say that if you’re PRACTICING a lifestyle without any consciousness to stop doing it (repentance) then you will be condemned by God.
Ephesians 5:3 – “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
Colossians 3:5-6 “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable,
Jude 1:7 – “In a similar way, Sodom and Gomorrah and the surrounding towns gave themselves up to sexual immorality and perversion. They serve as an example of those who suffer the punishment of eternal fire.”
Living a Lie? Being Deceived?
If you call yourself a Christian and having sex, either you are in the category of being obedient and living in truth (married), or you are deceiving yourselves and living a lie (unmarried):
1 John 1:6 – ” If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.”
1 John 3:7 – “Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous.”
Love or Hate Jesus?
Obedience just lets God knows who truly loves Him and who doesn’t. Which are you? A Jesus Hater or Lover?
John 14:15, 21 – “If you love Me, keep My commandments. He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him”
The key to getting the STD rates lowered is by practicing safe sex – NO SEX outside of marriage! Even in choosing our mates and marrying, these days we have to make a trip to the doctors to get tested for STDs. That is if one or both partners have had other sexual partners before meeting one another. Testing is paramount because of sexual history and rampant STDs.
Raising children to abstain from sex is where we all need to concentrate our efforts in conquering sexual diseases and maintaining healthy relationships. (See my posts on No Condoms No Pills!) That would be the sure fire way in conquering the next generation STDs!
But not only for sexual diseases, but if healthy relationships begin with sexual restraint, not only will that curb STD’s, but fewer out of wedlock babies, less poverty, and longer lasting marriages!
Let’s stop our “condom worship” and turn to the One that can truly save us!
Related post: Check out my fellow blogger Bev at Conservative Minority and her post titled: Abstinence is Harmful!
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