Iyanla Vanzant’s Fix My Life – Not for Christians!

FixMyLife_gaypastorsI decided to watch the Oprah Network’s reality show, Iyanla: Fix My Life featuring speaker, writer and minister or priestess of the Yoruba religion (an ancient African religion), Iyanla Vanzant. Although I’m not a big fan of Oprah’s spirituality shows, I was curious on how the three part series on “Fix My Secret Life as a Gay Pastor” would go. I did view this with low expectations but high hopes, hope that these ministers would be confronted not only with their sin of self-deception, adultery (of the married minister) and lies but also their contradiction of being Christian and practicing homosexuality.

Iyanla has great compassion for people and the desire for fixing all kinds of emotional, psychological and spiritual ailments so I don’t fault her there. But I knew if there would be any confrontation of these men regarding their homosexuality, it would come from their family, friends or congregations they lead and not from Iyanla. Being on the Oprah network means simply she is a supporter of LGBT rights and there would be no confrontation from her regarding their lifestyles that are contrary to biblical teachings. And with her being a minister of an entirely different religion, there would be no way these men would be confronted using God’s word.

She interviews two men, both of whom were living secret gay lives without their churches or families knowing about them. One was a down-low man, meaning he was having sex with men while married to a woman who did not know he was even gay.

Both men came out on the show to their families and/or congregations. The single pastor’s congregation gave him a standing ovation after his “coming out” speech while the other’s church wasn’t even shown. His poor wife was completely in the dark about his homosexuality and was humiliated and devastated with the news. Iyanla seemed to be angry at her for not knowing. How many wives whose spouses cheat have any hint of affairs? Iyanla should have showed her more compassion in that area. This woman did the right thing in later divorcing this unrepentant man. Praying that she is STD free!

The Gay pastors had the weight of the lies and deceptions removed from them after they acknowledged their homosexuality, but their honesty shouldn’t have stopped there. For the Christian, we know that the first step in our relationship with Christ is always the acknowledgement of sin. Truth needs to take a step further – leaving that sin behind! It is never enough just to be honest about the sin without doing anything about it:

He who covers his sins will not prosper,
But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy. Proverbs 28:13

Now what about Christians receiving counsel from ungodly people? The bible does have something to say about that here:

Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
    Nor stands in the path of sinners,
    Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; Psalm 1:1

So these pastors were in the wrong to start off with going on Oprah’s network and receiving counsel from someone who isn’t even a Christian. They knew what they were doing. They wanted affirmation of their gay lifestyles and what greater supporter than Oprah’s network? They probably felt safer coming out with a major supporter. These men obviously had no intention of quitting their gay sexual relationships.

Hopefully I am wrong about them and they are truly doing some soul searching and will leave the Gay lifestyle behind (such as was done by well known ex-gay singer/pastor Donnie McClurkin) and surge forward with a truly godly walk. Praying for these men.

And what about Iyanla? Christians should heed the scriptures when it comes to choosing whom to receive spiritual advice:

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world.  By this you know the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is of God, and every spirit that does not confess that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is not of God. And this is the spirit of the Antichrist, which you have heard was coming, and is now already in the world. 1 John 4:1-3

Iyanla does not accept Christ as Savior and preaches a different gospel – the gospel of self-help. She is the “god” and it’s her words versus God’s word. No Christian should be watching this show to receive any advice AT ALL!

Now a message to those pastors:

  1. Examine yourself to see if you are truly in the faith! 2 Corinthians 13:5
  2. Forsake the sin of homosexuality! Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9
  3. Seek godly counsel Psalm 1:1
  4. Seek to please God and not man! Galatians 1:10

A message to Iyanla:

  1. You must be born again! John 3:3

A message to all: Don’t seek Iyanla to “fix it” but seek only Christ!



Ex-Trangendered – David’s Story

David ArthurAfter Bruce Jenner went public about his upcoming transgender change to a woman, I wanted to hear/see more testimonies of people who have experienced the transgendered life but who would later change back to their original. I searched the Internet and came across a compelling story by a man named David Arthur.

David’s story includes homosexuality, prostitution, sexual promiscuity (thousands of partners) drug use, alcohol, stealing and many more vices. He found himself desiring to be a woman and took the hormone shots and pills for his transformation. For over 30 years David lived a life of debauchery which included being tested positive for HIV and at the age of 37, committed his life to Christ who changed his life forever!

I’m introducing David because he offers hope through Jesus Christ to those out there who may be just plain confused on homosexuality and transgenderism. Our culture is now accepting these lifestyles as normal when we who love God and His Word, know that it is just plain ole’ rebellious sin. Yes, in our culture it’s not cool to call homosexuality and transgenderism sin, but we must not be afraid to speak much needed truth, truth that David does so boldly but with compassionate love for mankind!

Click on the link to David’s website: IbelongAmen.com (love that name!) and read his testimony as well as check out the videos, one of which is shown below. David also has a link to donate to his ministry and I urge anyone to do so as his ministry is very, very powerful and glorifying to our Lord!


Alan Chambers of Exodus Int. – apologetic or confused and conflicted?

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As a Christian blogger, Exodus International was one of the key links on my website directing people struggling with same-sex attraction attractions to visit for information on how to be healed from this type of sexual sin.  So with great interest I’ve been following all the controversy related to his “I’m Sorry” letter to the gay community and the eventual shutting down of the organization.  I’ve posted parts of it throughout this page but it can be seen here in its entirety as long as Exodus International keeps their site up.

I’ve had many mixed emotions upon hearing from Alan Chambers’ apologies and why he was shutting it down. And with his announcement that Exodus Int. is closing, it was promptly taken off my website. But maybe it should have been taken down long ago with reasons I’ll explain later.

Still believes that marriage should be between a man and a woman (or does he)

What is most troubling about his apologies are the scores of people who may be hurt even worse because of it. Much confusion from the gay community in that many believe Alan is actually apologizing for calling their sexual lives a sin. He did make it clear at the end of his apology that he is NOT apologizing for his stance on what he believes the bible teaches about marriage and clarified in an interview with The Christian Post:

CP: In your written apology that you posted online you said that you can’t apologize for your belief in biblical sexual boundaries, but you did say that you will “exercise my beliefs with great care and respect for those who do not share them.” So can you please describe what those biblical sexual boundaries are, and also how your approach to those who disagree with you has changed?

Chambers: My beliefs about sex and sexuality and sexual expression are that God created, His original created intent was sexual expression between one man and one woman for one lifetime in the bonds of marriage, and that is the truth I live by.

Warning! “The truth I live by”… so if someone else has another “truth” is he going to accept it – as truth? How will Alan be able to now minister to gays who are practicing the sin of homosexuality – does he still recognize it as sin and that is sin for all of mankind, not just for those who believe it is sin?

Confusing apologies and confusing stance on sexual orientation

So what is he apologizing for? A glimpse into answers to that question can be found here in an interview with CNN’s Anderson Cooper:

He apologizes for his and his leaders’ rhetoric that has caused hurt, anxiety, trauma and shame. How much of that is Exodus and how much is scripture isn’t made plain here.  Much talk about feeling bad that people are traumatized for being led to believe they can change and Alan says that they can’t. I take it that Alan is making the distinction between sexual orientation and sexual acts. He claims he still has same-sex attraction but loves his wife.  Very confusing stuff here but more on that later in the post.

Here are a few passages from his letter of apology that caught my attention:

“But if the Church is a body, with many members being connected to the whole, then I believe that what one of us does right we all do right, and what one of us does wrong we all do wrong. We have done wrong, and I stand with many others who now recognize the need to offer apologies and make things right.”

I disagree here with Alan that if one does right/wrong then we all do. No, Exodus International participated in some questionable practices that truly did hurt many people. If what Alan is saying here is that we are all one – then must all churches that teach against homosexuality be shut down as Exodus Int.? So no we are separate organizations in one family of believers and that’s what Alan probably meant. All believers don’t have to seek apologies for what Exodus International has been guilty of doing.

Many have been hurt by questionable practices (not just calling it sin)

Some more from Alan here:

“Please know that I am deeply sorry. I am sorry for the pain and hurt many of you have experienced.

Alan is not clear here on what ways the gay community has been hurt. Many are hurt just hearing that the bible says homosexuality is a sin. But there have been other ways they have been hurt such as calling them demon possessed, name calling – sodomites, unnecessary questions about their sex lives, (from the ex-gays who confronted Alan on Lisa Ling’s report on the Oprah Network):

I am sorry that some of you spent years working through the shame and guilt you felt when your attractions didn’t change. I am sorry we promoted sexual orientation change efforts and reparative theories about sexual orientation that stigmatized parents.

Alan Chambers used to teach that one’s sexual orientation could be changed. A stance that understandably confused Anderson Cooper in the video above when he asked Alan about not being able to change sexual orientation while married to a woman. Anderson asked Alan point blank was he gay which Alan never did offer an emphatic yes or no. Alan Chambers has done nothing more than create further confusion.

Alan is whitewashing sin

I believe that Alan is sincerely trying to right some of the true wrongs of Exodus International but he’s appearing to now be very timid when it comes to scripture and when it comes to sin. An example of this timidity is when he said the following in his letter of apology:

“Our beliefs do not center on “sin” because “sin” isn’t at the center of our faith.”

With statements like that then perhaps it is best that Exodus International shuts down. If one doesn’t understand that Christ is the center of our faith and that His dying on the cross was for our SINS which makes SIN very central to the Christian faith, then Exodus has lost it’s entire focus of our Lord. Alan is crucifying our Lord all over again!

Past hints that something was wrong

There were some hints from the past that all is not well with Alan. My first clue that something was amiss was when in January 2012, Alan was an unplanned guest on a panel at the Gay Christian Network Conference in Orlando, Florida.  This is a conference of gays who practice homosexuality with a few who were practicing celibacy. Alan addressed them as “brothers and sisters in Christ.” Those of us who believe God’s word that homosexuality is a sin, know that those who rebel against God and persist in sin are not recognized as Children of God. (See my post Can you be a Christian AND a homosexual?)

The second clue at the same conference is when he said 99.9% of the people he knew had not changed their sexual orientation. A major hint that perhaps Alan was becoming disillusioned at his whole work at Exodus.

Praying for Alan Chambers – and his wife!

It’s tough to call someone a brother when he doesn’t seem to understand Christ’s death on the cross and how sin IS in the center of one’s life when Christ is on the throne! And how can he be called a believer if now what he believes is just “his” truth? Does he even believe that homosexuality is a sin anymore? And if he does, does he love the sinner enough to tell them the truth? Or now is he bowing down to the god of this world and bought the lie that one can practice homosexuality because Jesus loves them just as they are without change? And what about his wife, is she in danger of losing her husband to his lust for other men? I am hoping and praying that Alan breaks out of this snare and make the necessary changes he needs to make without further diluting of God’s word. I can see a more compassionate godly organization that will be a home to those seeking a change. But the leader himself must be grounded and that’s what I’m praying for in Alan.

Thank God there are organizations that are already faithful and bold in proclaiming God’s word, and that don’t depend on psycho-therapeutic means of seeking change in people but only through the blood of Jesus Christ! (See a list of ex-gay advocates and organizations on my blog and some listed in the articles below – with more to come!)


More articles on Alan Chambers’ Apology (articles will be updated as more come in)

Alan Chambers Follows Hypergrace Movement Back to Egypt – by Scott Lively on CharismaNews
After Exodus: Evangelicals React as Ex-Gay Ministry Starts Over – by Melissa Steffan on Christianity Today
6 Lessons From the Collapse of Exodus International – by Michael Brown on CharismaNews
Sorry Exodus, Homosexuals Can COMPLETELY Change – Stephen Bennett – Ex-gay and founder of SBM Worldwide, Inc.

Transgender craziness: Boy who wants to be a Girl Scout!

A story broke out recently (See story on ABC on a seven year old boy named Bobby Montoya, who likes to play with dolls, dress like little girls and wanted to be in the Girl Scouts.  The Girl Scouts initially rejected him because he has “boy parts,” but according to some sources the Girl Scouts have backpedaled and now are saying that they are inclusionary and transgendered children are allowed.

As I kept reading story after story on this poor little boy who has a mother who for some reason believed she must teach her boy that it’s ok to want to be a girl.  Why in today’s society is there so much gender confusion? What is wrong with a mother who decides that just because her boy likes dolls she must now dress him up and treat him like a little girl? This mother says that her son knew since he was two years old that he wanted to be a girl. Really? At two years old?

The mother, Felisha Archuleta said:

“I thought Bobby would grow out of it,” she said. “For birthdays, he asked for ponies. He had a princess birthday, and last year when he turned 7, he had a Rapunzel birthday. I have just basically supported him.”

She merely supported him or brainwashed him into believing that he is a girl! Who was responsible for him having a princess party and Rapunzel party? The boy? The mother is sadly just as confused as the Girl Scouts in not being able to tell that his like of girl toys (which is nothing wrong in itself) doesn’t means he has to be a girl!

To me it is child abuse to confuse a child at such a young age, to dress them up into their make believe world and send them to school only to be teased by children who are getting more confused by the day! And we wonder why kids commit suicide?

This family needs counseling. This family needs God in their lives. They need God’s word in their lives that will help them and anyone else confused with this transgender mess.

What saith the Lord about transgenderism? There is a book written by a man, KK Hofeling, who transgendered into a woman, and then went back to being a man. The description of his book on Amazon.com, “Transsexual Transformed by the Power of God” sums it up nicely:

Zechariah 12: 1: ”The Lord which stretcheth forth the heavens, and layeth the foundation of the earth, AND FORMETH THE SPIRIT OF MAN WITHIN HIM.”

Riddle me this: Why would a man want to be a woman? Are some men really females trapped in male bodies? Do environment and upbringing have any bearing on the subject? Does God make a mistake at birth?

Come near and hear the true story of a post-operative transgendered ”male to female,” a man who turned his back on God and walked away from his calling to fulfill his own passion, lust, and desires in life, only to discover that he, like the prodigal son, was destined to return to his Father in heaven. Read about his controversial, up-close, and personal views on the subject as he relays them to the Word of God: the Holy Bible.

Now I haven’t read this book and nor do I know what has become of KK Hofeling, but now I have learned that not only are there ex-gays, but ex-transgenders too! His book would be a compelling book for any of us to read.  Another ex-transgendered man, Walt Heyer, has a book out called “Trading My Sorrows.”  Here’s an excerpt from his book’s webpage:

“From my earliest childhood I was sure I had been born into the wrong body. I struggled for nearly 35 years to accept and resolve the gender conflict within. I was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and approved for gender reassignment surgery.

Eight years after the surgery I was struggling again with “the wrong body” and regret came. I had to admit to myself that the surgery I so desperately sought years before was not the correct treatment. I changed back to living in my male birth gender.

My thanks to Darrell Evans for his inspiring and powerful song, “Trading My Sorrows.” I have traded my sorrows for a relationship with Jesus Christ; my identity remains in Him. Walt Heyer

Both of these men are just a couple of examples of people who have changed back to what God originally made them and they both have a common denominator: their love for Jesus Christ! And takes a true relationship with God through Jesus Christ as the first step in complete acceptance of the body that God gave them.

Our country is in the midst of major bombardment from the LGBT community while they load their godless agenda on many clueless or rebellious people while at the same time godly standards are being ridiculed or accused of being hateful.  Even groups disguised as “Christian” are showing their disdain for God’s word by also showing their hatred to bible believing Christians.  The mother of this child has an agenda but I’m not sure if it’s simply to long for a little girl or she does want the world to know that its okay to be confused on whether one should be a boy or a girl.

True wisdom in how to live our lives begin with God because otherwise, nothing else will ever make sense.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,
But fools despise wisdom and instruction.” – Proverbs 1:7


Articles on Transgenderism and the Bible:

Transgendered Girl Scouts – by Chuck Colson (NEW!) (added 11/7/11)

Bible Question Box:  What about being Transgender?

What does the Bible say about transsexualism / transgenderism? Is gender identity disorder/gender dysphoria the result of sin?

What is a Biblical View of Transgendered People and Hermaphrodites?

Personal testimonies from ex-transgenders:

Read about Darrell, another ex-transgender’s story.  *Warning: Adult Material!


More on Walt Heyer with audio from “Americans for Truth About Homosexuality” website