Alan Chambers of Exodus Int. – apologetic or confused and conflicted?

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As a Christian blogger, Exodus International was one of the key links on my website directing people struggling with same-sex attraction attractions to visit for information on how to be healed from this type of sexual sin.  So with great interest I’ve been following all the controversy related to his “I’m Sorry” letter to the gay community and the eventual shutting down of the organization.  I’ve posted parts of it throughout this page but it can be seen here in its entirety as long as Exodus International keeps their site up.

I’ve had many mixed emotions upon hearing from Alan Chambers’ apologies and why he was shutting it down. And with his announcement that Exodus Int. is closing, it was promptly taken off my website. But maybe it should have been taken down long ago with reasons I’ll explain later.

Still believes that marriage should be between a man and a woman (or does he)

What is most troubling about his apologies are the scores of people who may be hurt even worse because of it. Much confusion from the gay community in that many believe Alan is actually apologizing for calling their sexual lives a sin. He did make it clear at the end of his apology that he is NOT apologizing for his stance on what he believes the bible teaches about marriage and clarified in an interview with The Christian Post:

CP: In your written apology that you posted online you said that you can’t apologize for your belief in biblical sexual boundaries, but you did say that you will “exercise my beliefs with great care and respect for those who do not share them.” So can you please describe what those biblical sexual boundaries are, and also how your approach to those who disagree with you has changed?

Chambers: My beliefs about sex and sexuality and sexual expression are that God created, His original created intent was sexual expression between one man and one woman for one lifetime in the bonds of marriage, and that is the truth I live by.

Warning! “The truth I live by”… so if someone else has another “truth” is he going to accept it – as truth? How will Alan be able to now minister to gays who are practicing the sin of homosexuality – does he still recognize it as sin and that is sin for all of mankind, not just for those who believe it is sin?

Confusing apologies and confusing stance on sexual orientation

So what is he apologizing for? A glimpse into answers to that question can be found here in an interview with CNN’s Anderson Cooper:

He apologizes for his and his leaders’ rhetoric that has caused hurt, anxiety, trauma and shame. How much of that is Exodus and how much is scripture isn’t made plain here.  Much talk about feeling bad that people are traumatized for being led to believe they can change and Alan says that they can’t. I take it that Alan is making the distinction between sexual orientation and sexual acts. He claims he still has same-sex attraction but loves his wife.  Very confusing stuff here but more on that later in the post.

Here are a few passages from his letter of apology that caught my attention:

“But if the Church is a body, with many members being connected to the whole, then I believe that what one of us does right we all do right, and what one of us does wrong we all do wrong. We have done wrong, and I stand with many others who now recognize the need to offer apologies and make things right.”

I disagree here with Alan that if one does right/wrong then we all do. No, Exodus International participated in some questionable practices that truly did hurt many people. If what Alan is saying here is that we are all one – then must all churches that teach against homosexuality be shut down as Exodus Int.? So no we are separate organizations in one family of believers and that’s what Alan probably meant. All believers don’t have to seek apologies for what Exodus International has been guilty of doing.

Many have been hurt by questionable practices (not just calling it sin)

Some more from Alan here:

“Please know that I am deeply sorry. I am sorry for the pain and hurt many of you have experienced.

Alan is not clear here on what ways the gay community has been hurt. Many are hurt just hearing that the bible says homosexuality is a sin. But there have been other ways they have been hurt such as calling them demon possessed, name calling – sodomites, unnecessary questions about their sex lives, (from the ex-gays who confronted Alan on Lisa Ling’s report on the Oprah Network):

I am sorry that some of you spent years working through the shame and guilt you felt when your attractions didn’t change. I am sorry we promoted sexual orientation change efforts and reparative theories about sexual orientation that stigmatized parents.

Alan Chambers used to teach that one’s sexual orientation could be changed. A stance that understandably confused Anderson Cooper in the video above when he asked Alan about not being able to change sexual orientation while married to a woman. Anderson asked Alan point blank was he gay which Alan never did offer an emphatic yes or no. Alan Chambers has done nothing more than create further confusion.

Alan is whitewashing sin

I believe that Alan is sincerely trying to right some of the true wrongs of Exodus International but he’s appearing to now be very timid when it comes to scripture and when it comes to sin. An example of this timidity is when he said the following in his letter of apology:

“Our beliefs do not center on “sin” because “sin” isn’t at the center of our faith.”

With statements like that then perhaps it is best that Exodus International shuts down. If one doesn’t understand that Christ is the center of our faith and that His dying on the cross was for our SINS which makes SIN very central to the Christian faith, then Exodus has lost it’s entire focus of our Lord. Alan is crucifying our Lord all over again!

Past hints that something was wrong

There were some hints from the past that all is not well with Alan. My first clue that something was amiss was when in January 2012, Alan was an unplanned guest on a panel at the Gay Christian Network Conference in Orlando, Florida.  This is a conference of gays who practice homosexuality with a few who were practicing celibacy. Alan addressed them as “brothers and sisters in Christ.” Those of us who believe God’s word that homosexuality is a sin, know that those who rebel against God and persist in sin are not recognized as Children of God. (See my post Can you be a Christian AND a homosexual?)

The second clue at the same conference is when he said 99.9% of the people he knew had not changed their sexual orientation. A major hint that perhaps Alan was becoming disillusioned at his whole work at Exodus.

Praying for Alan Chambers – and his wife!

It’s tough to call someone a brother when he doesn’t seem to understand Christ’s death on the cross and how sin IS in the center of one’s life when Christ is on the throne! And how can he be called a believer if now what he believes is just “his” truth? Does he even believe that homosexuality is a sin anymore? And if he does, does he love the sinner enough to tell them the truth? Or now is he bowing down to the god of this world and bought the lie that one can practice homosexuality because Jesus loves them just as they are without change? And what about his wife, is she in danger of losing her husband to his lust for other men? I am hoping and praying that Alan breaks out of this snare and make the necessary changes he needs to make without further diluting of God’s word. I can see a more compassionate godly organization that will be a home to those seeking a change. But the leader himself must be grounded and that’s what I’m praying for in Alan.

Thank God there are organizations that are already faithful and bold in proclaiming God’s word, and that don’t depend on psycho-therapeutic means of seeking change in people but only through the blood of Jesus Christ! (See a list of ex-gay advocates and organizations on my blog and some listed in the articles below – with more to come!)


More articles on Alan Chambers’ Apology (articles will be updated as more come in)

Alan Chambers Follows Hypergrace Movement Back to Egypt – by Scott Lively on CharismaNews
After Exodus: Evangelicals React as Ex-Gay Ministry Starts Over – by Melissa Steffan on Christianity Today
6 Lessons From the Collapse of Exodus International – by Michael Brown on CharismaNews
Sorry Exodus, Homosexuals Can COMPLETELY Change – Stephen Bennett – Ex-gay and founder of SBM Worldwide, Inc.

Transgender craziness: Boy who wants to be a Girl Scout!

A story broke out recently (See story on ABC on a seven year old boy named Bobby Montoya, who likes to play with dolls, dress like little girls and wanted to be in the Girl Scouts.  The Girl Scouts initially rejected him because he has “boy parts,” but according to some sources the Girl Scouts have backpedaled and now are saying that they are inclusionary and transgendered children are allowed.

As I kept reading story after story on this poor little boy who has a mother who for some reason believed she must teach her boy that it’s ok to want to be a girl.  Why in today’s society is there so much gender confusion? What is wrong with a mother who decides that just because her boy likes dolls she must now dress him up and treat him like a little girl? This mother says that her son knew since he was two years old that he wanted to be a girl. Really? At two years old?

The mother, Felisha Archuleta said:

“I thought Bobby would grow out of it,” she said. “For birthdays, he asked for ponies. He had a princess birthday, and last year when he turned 7, he had a Rapunzel birthday. I have just basically supported him.”

She merely supported him or brainwashed him into believing that he is a girl! Who was responsible for him having a princess party and Rapunzel party? The boy? The mother is sadly just as confused as the Girl Scouts in not being able to tell that his like of girl toys (which is nothing wrong in itself) doesn’t means he has to be a girl!

To me it is child abuse to confuse a child at such a young age, to dress them up into their make believe world and send them to school only to be teased by children who are getting more confused by the day! And we wonder why kids commit suicide?

This family needs counseling. This family needs God in their lives. They need God’s word in their lives that will help them and anyone else confused with this transgender mess.

What saith the Lord about transgenderism? There is a book written by a man, KK Hofeling, who transgendered into a woman, and then went back to being a man. The description of his book on, “Transsexual Transformed by the Power of God” sums it up nicely:

Zechariah 12: 1: ”The Lord which stretcheth forth the heavens, and layeth the foundation of the earth, AND FORMETH THE SPIRIT OF MAN WITHIN HIM.”

Riddle me this: Why would a man want to be a woman? Are some men really females trapped in male bodies? Do environment and upbringing have any bearing on the subject? Does God make a mistake at birth?

Come near and hear the true story of a post-operative transgendered ”male to female,” a man who turned his back on God and walked away from his calling to fulfill his own passion, lust, and desires in life, only to discover that he, like the prodigal son, was destined to return to his Father in heaven. Read about his controversial, up-close, and personal views on the subject as he relays them to the Word of God: the Holy Bible.

Now I haven’t read this book and nor do I know what has become of KK Hofeling, but now I have learned that not only are there ex-gays, but ex-transgenders too! His book would be a compelling book for any of us to read.  Another ex-transgendered man, Walt Heyer, has a book out called “Trading My Sorrows.”  Here’s an excerpt from his book’s webpage:

“From my earliest childhood I was sure I had been born into the wrong body. I struggled for nearly 35 years to accept and resolve the gender conflict within. I was diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and approved for gender reassignment surgery.

Eight years after the surgery I was struggling again with “the wrong body” and regret came. I had to admit to myself that the surgery I so desperately sought years before was not the correct treatment. I changed back to living in my male birth gender.

My thanks to Darrell Evans for his inspiring and powerful song, “Trading My Sorrows.” I have traded my sorrows for a relationship with Jesus Christ; my identity remains in Him. Walt Heyer

Both of these men are just a couple of examples of people who have changed back to what God originally made them and they both have a common denominator: their love for Jesus Christ! And takes a true relationship with God through Jesus Christ as the first step in complete acceptance of the body that God gave them.

Our country is in the midst of major bombardment from the LGBT community while they load their godless agenda on many clueless or rebellious people while at the same time godly standards are being ridiculed or accused of being hateful.  Even groups disguised as “Christian” are showing their disdain for God’s word by also showing their hatred to bible believing Christians.  The mother of this child has an agenda but I’m not sure if it’s simply to long for a little girl or she does want the world to know that its okay to be confused on whether one should be a boy or a girl.

True wisdom in how to live our lives begin with God because otherwise, nothing else will ever make sense.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,
But fools despise wisdom and instruction.” – Proverbs 1:7


Articles on Transgenderism and the Bible:

Transgendered Girl Scouts – by Chuck Colson (NEW!) (added 11/7/11)

Bible Question Box:  What about being Transgender?

What does the Bible say about transsexualism / transgenderism? Is gender identity disorder/gender dysphoria the result of sin?

What is a Biblical View of Transgendered People and Hermaphrodites?

Personal testimonies from ex-transgenders:

Read about Darrell, another ex-transgender’s story.  *Warning: Adult Material!

More on Walt Heyer with audio from “Americans for Truth About Homosexuality” website


A letter to A’isha – a Gay “Christian”


A blogger/writer, John Shore, urged his readers to forward  his latest blog post titled: “Why should any of us choose to be a part of a group that condemns us.” I knew him from many of his postings on the Huffington Post as being a professing Christian who rebukes other Christians for daring to say that homosexuality is a sin.  His blog article begins with informing his readers that he’s heard from A’isha, a friend of his who is a lesbian and a professing Christian.  She lost her beloved girlfriend recently and was finding a way of dealing with the grief through writing. A’isha had written a piece she wanted John to post in which he did.

But he urged A’isha’s piece to be forwarded with a stern warning to:

anyone who continues to cling to the ignorant, toxic belief that being gay is a choice for which God condemns people. (And to the people who in God’s name are STILL condemning A’isha? Save your souls: stop using Jesus to justify your own fear and hatred).”

John’s ignoring of the biblical commandments regarding sexual immorality that include homosexuality and his support of it recalled the following scriptures to my mind in Romans 1:28-32 where not only did those who practice in sin deserve death but also those who APPROVE of those who do the sinful practices.  John is just as guilty as those who practice the actual sins because of his adamant approval of the gay lifestyle.  Although we deserve death for these practices, God in His grace has spared many of us from instant death sentences.

A’isha’s piece is heartfelt and she obviously is still grieving the death of her loved one.  I prayed before writing my response because condemnation was the last thing she needed right now, but I also felt that too many people were shielding her from the truth and as painful as truth may be, it had to be shared.  So I wrote a comment which unfortunately didn’t appear on John’s blog.  I found him on facebook and wanted to know if he was going to post it and he let me know he wouldn’t and his reason for rejecting it: “Because A’isha is my friend.”

So with that I decided to post my response to A’isha on my own blog here and hopefully not only will A’isha seek Christ for the changes needed in her life but others who are also going through what she’s going through. Hopefully she will discover who her TRUE friends are and run as fast as she can from her “deceitful enemies!”

To A’isha

A’isha, my condolences to you for your loss and I do respect your strength in your time of grief as well.  Your story was very touching and because I’m not a lesbian but a heterosexual female, I can’t begin to relate with your struggles and where you are now.

I guess with all of that said, I guess I’m one of those who John refers to as holding on to the “ignorant and toxic belief that being gay is a choice that God condemns people” for. Well sort of. I believe that homosexuality is a choice or a lifestyle that can be changed, but I where I slightly differ is the condemnation part.  Christ didn’t come to condemn anyone so neither should the rest of us.  Until we become saved in Christ, we are all already in a state of condemnation and should be quite patient with one another through all of our struggles. (John 3:17-18).

There is a Proverb that comes to mind when I read this blog and it is this one: “Proverbs 27:6 – Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”  People appear to be afraid to speak the truth here for fear of being labeled someone who judges or condemns.  But the truth of the matter is that if we truly care about people then we will share the truth with them no matter how painful it could be.

A’isha, the truth sometimes hurts but if the truth is accepted, the fruit it bears will be quite worth the pain. The truth I’m speaking here is how clear the bible is on homosexuality and any sexual immorality outside of what God has approved – sex between a married man and a woman.

I know you know the scriptures so I won’t rehash them here unless asked to but I do want to share the story of a woman who struggled like you and she succeeded in getting out of the lesbian lifestyle.  I hope you read this because only she can relate to what you had gone through.

Her name is Charlene Cothran, a lady I’ve never met but is featured  on my blog.  She doesn’t push anyone who doesn’t want to leave the gay lifestyle. If you believe that you are gay and it’s not a choice and not changeable, then don’t bother reading.  This is for anyone who believes that with Christ all things are possible and that changing from gay to straight isn’t excluded among these possibilities.

If you are struggling and do desire to change, then read on!


See also the videos on this blog where Charlene is being interviewed. Her testimony is in detail on Youtube as well!


Beyonce, B Slade, Chaz Bono, SB48 and more hot topics!

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I don’t have much time for blogging these days while concentrating on my writing projects, meanwhile I did want to do a brief commentary on some hot topics that have been of immediate interest to me.

I’ll start with Chaz Bono. I really feel bad for this woman.  As far as I’m concerned, she’s still a woman trying very hard to become a man. According to many sources Chaz even still has the female parts from the waist down. (TV Guide) Why is this even something to blog about? Is it because Chaz Bono’s name is all over the Internet and TV news and popular TV programs such as the upcoming new season of Dancing with the Stars? Children are bound to ask “what’s the big deal about Chaz Bono? What is transgender?”  And yes, we parents must be prepared to engage them in age specific discussions.   My children are all adults now, but I would tell younger children that it is simply a person wanting to be something different than what God made them.  Is it wrong to become transgendered? I do think it is. It is unnatural and that’s all I know about transgenders.  Why doctors are bent on messing up a person’s life with these type of operations is beyond me. Is it for money? Do they really think they are doing that person a favor? I don’t know and it’s just sick to me.

Next topic. SB48. That is the law that was recently passed to allow Gay history into California’s classrooms.  What is so wrong with this? For the multitudes of people that believe that being gay is NOT ok, to introduce it into our children’s classrooms contradict what is being taught at home by many parents.  If gay history is being taught, then the child would naturally believe it’s ok to be gay. Well, it’s not and now further confusion is being added to an already inept public school system that as a whole is failing our children.

B. Slade formerly known as Tonex. I haven’t written about the San Diego product called Tonex in over two years, yet my blog articles about this former gospel singer turned gay pop singer are still the most popular on this website.  If he was just a gay man singing and going about his business, this wouldn’t be such a big deal.  But because he still refers to himself as “Christian” and is teaching people that God will accept you just where you are as long as you are honest about yourself, he has become a false teacher, false preacher bringing about “another gospel” that the bible warns us to heed.

B Slade’s talent is unquestionable. This man can sing, dance and act! But sadly his character is debase. He’s profane in language, actions and teachings and any chance we get, believers must speak out against him while praying for him at the same time.  I’m not praying the gay away at all, but I’m praying for B Slade to become born-again! When you truly put your faith in Christ, all the other character defects in your life will begin to change. B Slade is showing us that his fruit is not bearing the signs of being a true Christian.   Being talented and talking about God doesn’t make one saved – at all!

Beyonce is pregnant. And someone tweeted on Twitter, she dated, got married and got pregnant – in that order and for other ladies to take note! Yes, Beyonce is a good role model in that respect but I’m not sure for any other aspect.  She is very vulgar in the way she dresses and dance and oh how so many girls are mimicking her as their role model for that!

Once Saved Always Saved! I recently had the displeasure of dropping a beloved fellow blogger from my blog list because of his belief that we are not secure in our salvation.  I am a staunch believer that Christ paid the price for our sins, and that if we repent of them then the gift of salvation is our! We didn’t earn it, it was given to us because of our faith.  Evidence of that faith becomes our good works which are done out of love and obedience to Christ, not because we are trying to earn our way to heaven.  If one is not secure in their salvation, then they are busy depending upon their own good works to make it to heaven – an extremely burdensome way to live as well as prideful way to live!

President Obama. I was of the 5% of Black people who didn’t vote for him and am very glad I didn’t.  I still disagree with most of his policies but he is still the president and therefore I will continue to pray for him to make wise decisions regarding this country.  Whether we like him or not, we must show respect for his position and I will not be a part of any group that childishly disrespects the office of president while disagreeing with him.

Ah, that feels great to get all of that out!  Now back to work…


Scriptural references:

You must be born again!

John 3:1-3 – 1 There was a man of the Pharisees named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews. 2 This man came to Jesus by night and said to Him, “Rabbi, we know that You are a teacher come from God; for no one can do these signs that You do unless God is with him.”
3 Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.”

Saved by Grace ONLY!

Ephesians 2:8-9 – “8 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, 9 not of works, lest anyone should boast.”

Beware of “other” gospels:

Galatians 1:6-8 6 I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, 7 which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. 8 But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed.”

You can tell a Christian by the “fruit” they bear:

Luke 6:43-45 43 “For a good tree does not bear bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. 44 For every tree is known by its own fruit. For men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they gather grapes from a bramble bush. 45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart[g] brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

And what is this “fruit?”

Galatians 5:16-26 16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery,[c] fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders,[d] drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.”