Prop 8 upheld: Anti-gay marriage but not anti-gay

Pastor Miles McPherson on CNN discussing Prop 8: glad for the ruling but feels bad for the 18,000 that stay married creating further confusion; says he’s anti-gay marriage but not anti-gay.

Update 5/27: Pastor Miles vs Comedienne Carol Leifer on Prop 8 on the Larry King Show

By a 6 to 1 vote the California Supreme Court ruled in favor of Proposition 8 while maintaining as legal the 18,000 gays who did marry before the law took effect. And why am I not thrilled about this decision? Is it because of the fighting legally, politically, socially, and spiritually that will continue forever?

I don’t know about many of you who read this, but I’m tiring of the fighting. But I will always be against gay marriage no matter how mentally and spiritually drained I become because of this ongoing conflict. Gay marriage is immoral and no matter the cry for equality, there will never be an acceptance by the general population of those immoral unions.

Should legally married gays be accepted in the Christian church?

A San Diego pastor, Jim Garlow was asked on TV news if Prop 8 would be overturned, would he recognize gay marriages in his church. His answer was rightfully no! His reason he gave was because simply it was not acceptable biblically and no gay couples would be welcomed in his church as a marriage, but would be quite welcomed as individuals.

That’s the stance any pastor should take whether or not gay marriages are legal in their state/country or providence. Any pastor should have the courage that the young 21 year old beauty queen (now 22) Carrie Prejean took that day she decided it was better not to compromise God’s standard for marriage to win an earthly crown. Too many pastors are shying away from God’s clear principles regarding marriage. Many are turning their backs completely on God’s word with their concern to please people rather than God.

Can a person be anti-gay marriage without being anti-gay?

Totally! I just completed two-weeks of traveling which included dining with my lesbian cousin and her live-in girlfriend.  I also treated my gay nephew for dinner while visiting San Francisco to bring my daughter home from college.

These individuals know my stance on their lifestyles very well as we have had some pretty heated discussions regarding homosexuality but that didn’t change the fact that I love them very much!  Anti-gay marriage, anti-homosexuality doesn’t mean we hate the person involved and this is something that many people don’t understand.

Of course, many LGBT people will always believe that if you don’t accept their lifestyles, then you automatically hate them.  Nothing much we can do about that no matter how kind we may treat them otherwise.  And if we don’t watch ourselves, we too can get caught up in bitterness and hate if we allow the animosity of the “haters” to affect us.

So yes, after seeking spiritual replenishment through God’s word, the bible and much prayer, I will continue my effort in supporting marriage between a man and a woman only while not being hateful towards the LGBTQ person!

Miss California – a S.T.A.N.D. for God!


Today I went to the 8am service at our church, the Rock Church San Diego, the first of five services that Miss California, Carrie Prejean would appear.  I’m glad I went to this service because of it being the first, she was a bit more emotional showing her very real pain from the confusion and loneliness she experienced at the early stages of her ordeal.   The 8am wasn’t taped, so it was also a warm-up for Carrie to prepare her for our live viewings at the 10am and 12noon services. I knew we’d be in for a treat but the service was even better that I imagined!  (click on link at the end of the post for the video)

Didn’t plan to get involved with the same-sex marriage controversy

To make a long story short, I was most struck by the way GOD had His hand in this entire event!  Carrie by no means planned to get involved in a same-sex marriage controversy.  She simply wanted to participate in a beauty pageant to win and represent our country in the Miss Universe competition.  But God had a different path for her to take!

With the controversial answer to the just as controversial question, the abrupt flight out to New York to face the media, traveling alone and crying to God for direction and the “chance” of Carrie’s very own pastor going to New York also at the same time but on a different flight – was nothing short of a miracle in the making!

Pastor Miles McPherson didn’t know of Carrie, the pageant or that Carrie even went to his church!


Pastor Miles not even hearing of the pageant and not knowing who Miss California was, ended up getting in touch with Carrie after being called by his executive assistant that a young lady in a major public distress needed prayer.  Realizing the urgency of the situation, Miles met up with Carrie and her mother and prepped her for the day long media blitz (he went on every single interview she was asked to appear).  An absolute answer to Carrie’s prayer!

To get the feel of the complete message, you can still go to the website and watch the video of the 10 or 12’oclock service.  The 8am service had most of us without a dried eye as we felt Carrie’s pain, but by the next few services she was more composed.

The boldness of the biblical beauty queen, Queen Esther

Pastor Miles wonderfully tied this lesson of boldness to another “beauty queen,” and that was Queen Esther of the book of Esther in the bible.  A woman who became a queen as a result of a beauty contest with the winner becoming the king’s wife.  But it was this queen’s boldness in the face of possible death that pastor preached on today.

In an attempt to save the Jewish people who all were being sentenced to death, Queen Esther went before the King unannounced  – which meant certain death according to their laws.  But her response to the possible death sentence?

“… And so I will go to the King, which is against the law; and if I perish, I perish!” Esther – 4:16(b)

The boldness of Queen Esther! For the sake of her people she boldly went to the king who was quite taken by the queen’s actions and ended up sparing the life of the Jewish people.

Miss California faced with a less formidable situation, yet nevertheless still trying, boldly went against the gay agenda of the vindictive beauty judge and kept her ground throughout with God’s guidance and help from Pastor Miles!

Always STAND up for God!

Great sharing of her story by Carrie Prejean and an equally great sermon by Pastor Miles with lessons we can all apply to our lives daily!


Pastor Miles taught that we must stop cowaring for the sake of political correctness and take a stand for God.  Carrie was an example of this boldness  while having political correctness take a back seat.

Here is the meaning to the acronym S.T.A.N.D. taught by Pastor Miles in today’s sermon:

S – stare down courage – be able to stare intimidation in the face and not worry  about being politically correct!

T- trust in the truth and not a lie; live the truth of the bible and don’t compromise it.

A- accept God’s sovereign provision – God will provide for whatever situation we may find ourselves; encouragement

N – never fear man over God; pursue the heavenly crown and not earthly rewards

D – die to self – putting God first in all things!

Go to this link for the video and message

The Negative Effects of Same-sex Marriages

same sex marriageUpdated 9/13/2016

This post was written originally in October 2008 as a response to the initial Prop 8 balloting and every year is still the most visited site on my blog. In light of today’s ruling that now legalizes same sex marriage nationwide, nothing will change on this site. This blog will always stand for the truth of God’s word which declares homosexuality as sin but saddened as this country just appears to have more in common with Sodom and Gomorrah than not. Can same-sex marriage and freedom of religion co-exist? That remains to be seen and this blog will be committed in finding facts regarding the two polarizing stances.

The articles below are loaded with arguments and statistical data that support marriage between a man and a woman and expose the negatives of homosexuality. Also listed below are articles that write about the spiritual, socio-political, and medical consequences of homosexual sex, a topic that political correctness has managed to keep hidden from the airwaves and most media.

As the debate continues and more and more people become convinced that to “love” all people means to accept the aberrant behavior of the homosexual, the need for beneficial information abounds. Real facts regarding the negative effects of same-sex unions and how it affects not only individuals, but communities and even entire cultures becomes sought after, resulting in blogs such as this one whose most popular articles are the result of searches for “negative effects of homosexuality.” This blog post will continue to be updated with new and re-levant news.

Read, contemplate, meditate and freely share your thoughts!



Harmful effects of gay marriage in society – by Petri Paavola

6 Ways Homosexuality is Hurting America - by David King

15 Reasons ‘Marriage Equality’ Is About Neither Marriage Nor Equality –  by Stella Morabito

Homosexual relationships cannot satisfy the purposes of marriage – by Bryan Fischer

Dear Gay Community: Your Kids Are Hurting. Remember the book “Heather has two Mommies” that indoctrinated our children into homosexuality in many of our schools? That same Heather is now a married mom of four children and shares her emptiness on being raised without a father in spite of having two very loving lesbian moms. Essay taken from The Federalist online magazine.

10 Reasons Why Homosexual “Marriages” are harmful and must be opposed. - Written by the TFP Student Action, a project of the American Society for the Defense of Tradition, Family and Property. (Excellent video on this page)

Why ‘Gay Marriage’ is Wrong: Answering Top 10 Objections – TFP Student Action


Statistical data and research

Same sex ‘marriage’ has negative effects, shows latest evidence - London, 2 March 2013: The experience of legalising marriage for same-sex couples in Europe and North America shows that such legalisation has negative effects for real marriage and for families, shows latest evidence.

Yes, Marriage Will Change – and Here’s Howby Mark Regnerus is an associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin.

The Top Ten Harms of Same-Sex “Marriage” (pdf)Family Research Council

What same-sex “marriage” has done to Massachusetts (also in pdf)by Bruce Camenker, updated June 2012 – a powerful booklet shared online that exposes the shocking changes that have taken place throughout Massachusetts since gay marriage has been ruled legal.

Christian Persecution and Same-Sex Marriage

Gay marriage incompatible with religious freedom – List of businesses by Christians affected by same-sex marriage acceptance in 2013. Just a small picture of the loss of religious freedoms that many businesses of today are experiencing.
Retired Los Angeles Deputy turned evangelist arrested in London for preaching against homosexuality – a sign of things to come in America?


Court Decisions and Christian Responses to Same-sex marriages in general

Supreme Court: Same-sex couples can marry in all 50 states

Supreme Court Dismisses Prop. 8 Appeal; Gay Marriage Moves Forward in California

Supreme Court Strikes Down Key Provision in Defense of Marriage Act

Prop 8, DOMA, and the Christian Responseby Ed Stetzer

What Is the Gospel Response to the Prop. 8 Decision?Christianity Today, with responses from Christians from a variety of backgrounds.

How can gay marriage hurt anyone?by Matt Slick, Christian Apologist

How Christians Have Partnered With Gays to Attack Marriage - by Ronald J. Sider who is the president of Evangelicals for Social Action and professor of theology, holistic ministry and public policy at Palmer Seminary of Eastern University in Wynnewood, Pa.



Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D. is the founder and President of the Ruth Institute
Explains the two competing views of marriage – one traditional/natural and the other recreational/consumer-based



Updated 1/21/2013 – see post on this site: Obama on Gay marriage in Inaugural Speech: the sad state of Christianity in America. President Obama has thrown his support to gay marriage – after swearing on three different bibles. Article meant more for Christians than non-Christians but an important read for anyone interested. Confirms what has been written below that soon gay relationships will be seen as “normal.” The more normalized homosexuality becomes, the more demonized bible believing Christians become.

Updated 7-1-2012


June 21, 2012 — For Immediate Release

The Harmful Agenda Behind ‘LGBT Pride’ Parades
Perverse parades advocate intolerant laws punishing people who disagree

Sacramento, California — The homosexual-bisexual-transsexual parades occurring in cities in California and around the nation are harmful to both children and adults, says a veteran children and families organization.

“‘LGBT Pride’ means roping children into unhealthy and unnatural homosexual-bisexual-transsexual lifestyles, and eliminating the God-given, constitutional rights of everyone who disagrees,” said Randy Thomasson, president of, which promotes moral virtues for the common good. “You can’t support so-called ‘gay rights’ and at the same time support free speech, religious freedom, or freedom of association, because these concocted ‘gay rights’ are trampling people’s true constitutional rights.”

In California, the “lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender” agenda is firmly entrenched in state statutes and court rulings. As a result, so-called “LGBT rights” trump other people’s constitutional rights:

1. GONE — Religious freedom, conscience rights: Under threat of a $150,000 penalty, business owners and property owners cannot decline to hire or rent to homosexuals, bisexuals, or transsexuals despite an owner’s religious or moral conscience: Homosexuality and bisexuality — AB 1001 and AB 1670 (1999); cross-dressing and “sex changes” — AB 196 (2003), AB 887 (2011)

2. GONE — Parents’ rights: A raft of “LGBT” laws in K-12 government schools has largely eliminated the requirement of parental permission for teaching children these sexual subjects. See the several “LGBT” laws that override parental consent

3. GONE — Physicians’ rights: You can’t be a doctor in California and for religious/moral reasons, refuse artificial insemination to a lesbian: “Doctors’ faith must yield to gays’ rights, court says”

4. GONE — Right of association: Owners of businesses and clubs are prohibited from exercising their First Amendment right of association regarding homosexuality, bisexuality, and transsexuality: AB 2900 (2004), AB 1400 (2005), Bernardo Heights Country Club (2005)

Freedom of religion and freedom of assembly (association) are enshrined in the United States Constitution and the California Constitution. The fundamental right of parents to direct the education and upbringing of their children has been repeatedly affirmed by the United States Supreme Court. Yet “LGBT” statutory laws in California have been allowed to trump constitutional freedom of religion and freedom of association, as well as infringe upon fundamental parental rights. In contrast, homosexual-bisexual-transsexual “rights” are in neither the state constitution nor federal constitution. In addition, these sexual behaviors do not qualify for “civil rights” status, which is categorically limited to characteristics that are immutable — not changeable, as homosexuality, bisexuality, and transsexuality have demonstrated themselves to be.

“In California, religious rights, moral rights, parental rights, business owner rights, property owner rights, physicians’ rights, and the right of association are being trampled by the intolerant ‘LGBT’ agenda,” Thomasson said. “And despite their lust for dominion and their incessant attacks on other persons’ constitutional rights, the homosexual-bisexual-transsexual activists deceive themselves and others by claiming to be ‘victims’ of peaceful people who have a conscience on these sexual behaviors. But who’s trampling whom? American rights or so-called ‘gay rights’ — you can’t have both, because the latter eliminates the former.”

— end — is a leading West Coast nonprofit, nonpartisan organization standing strong for moral virtues for the common good. We represent children and families in the areas of marriage and family, parental rights, the sanctity of human life, religious freedom, financial freedom, and back-to-basics education.


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The Fine Line Rally Video ('Yes' on Proposition 8)

The Fine Line Rally on ‘Yes for Proposition 8″ video below if you missed it. Listen to Pastor Miles sermon on marriage, and the panel as they answer these six questions:

  1. “Same-sex marriage doesn’t affect me so why should I be against it?”
  2. “You’re trying to impose your religion, what about separation of church and state?”
  3. “Heterosexuals have the right to get married according to their orientation, but homosexuals – why shouldn’t they have the same right?”
  4. “Half of marriages end up in divorce, so why not allow same-sex marriages? Maybe they’ll do better statistically.”
  5. “Isn’t it true that kids need a loving family regardless whether its a mother or father?”
  6. “If you care about your gay friends, you would want them to be happy and that might mean being able to marry the person they love. So telling them they can’t be married isn’t very loving is it?”

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